That Someone could be that Important

It’s like you’re screaming, and no one can hear
You almost feel ashamed
That someone could be that important
That without them, you feel like nothing
No one will ever understand how much it hurts
You feel hopeless; like nothing can save you

(We found Love :lyrics by Rihanna)

Today I write about what I think is the most important yet the hardest to understand communications between two humans, love. In my life to be without love is like the sky without the sun, the night sky without a moon. The darkness with no light.

While I have this need I have yet to fully understand the nature of real and true love. The dance between the need for the respect of myself but also having tolerance for those who love me. People are only human. We are all trying to get by on this earth. Most of us feel a variety of emotions, some hurt us and others and some emotions like happiness are constructive. We need to feel these in an appropriate manner that does not hurt others. I firmly believe that aggression towards another is never acceptable except when under attack and in physical danger. There comes a time for all of us where we have to stand up for ourselves. It is an act of self-love, you are loving yourself by standing up for yourself if physically attacked.

To need someone so badly I do not think is healthy. I like to always have a sense of independence, to have systems and people around me that I will not fall apart if the relationship deteriorates. I have made the mistake too often where I depend on someone completely and when they are no longer in my life my world literally falls apart. In one relationship that went sour I had to leave Edinburgh in Scotland. I had no friends or money, just a relationship. I remember sitting outside a train station in Dublin waiting for my mother to bring me home. I did not eat or drink on the plane because I had no money. I was thirsty sitting outside the train station but I had not a penny to my name, literally. Yes I have gone through hard times but I learned from that experience.

In a relationship how do you know when enough is enough and it is time to call it a day? As Rihanna sings so well, you know you will miss all the goodness in that person when they are gone and you might regret not being tolerant enough to just accept the person`s faults. For me it is best to try and fix the relationship but we all must accept change. Change happens all the time in life. Nothing is more certain in life than change. I do not think a drastic end to a relationship is always necessary but people do have to be prepared for change in a relationship too, because communication in a relationship changes all the time.

What I have learned lately is that the key for me to have a happy life is to never be afraid. If I can believe and remember that I am always safe, that I have the strength within me to deal with any event in relationships or any other situation I do not feel as bad when there are difficulties. I think more clearly, I make better decisions because I do not panic. That is what I have learned so far. I would hope that many others will know the value of having no fear.

 

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Gabriel Woods

I am the author of The Golden Age Dawns, a fantasy science fiction book.I have traveled to many countries around the world including India, Australia, Scotland, England, Ireland, America, Amsterdam, Germany, Greece, Cyprus, Portugal and Spain. I have worked in mental health and disability for most of my life. I have an honours Degree in Psychology, a Masters in Aid-work Management, a Certificate in Counseling Skills and I am a certified coach. I have written my first novel, The Golden Age Dawns which will be published in Amazon at the end of April. I have a Kindle book available in Amazon Easter Rising 1916 A Family Answers The Call For Ireland`s Freedom which is very popular and has achieve high ratings. I have always aimed to help and support people all my working life. Much of my learning from this is in my book, some of the ideas I share on this blogging site along with beautiful places I write about that I have traveled to. I am concerned about world politics at the moment and hope that my new book will go toward making the world a better place and helping individuals feel better about themselves. I am living in Ireland near Dublin. Apart from writing my book I have been working as a volunteer on a helpline for people with depression, bipolar and depression. What I love most is traveling and sunny countries. I love to visit important spiritual, religious, or historic places when I am in holiday but I also like holidays on the beach. I have a wide variety of music that I like from pop music to dance music and rock music. My hobbies are social commentary, politics, reading all kinds of books, the gym, gardening, D.I.Y. I love to socialize and meet new people. I like to learn new things. I am the author of: Easter Rising 1916, A Family Answers The Call For Ireland`s Freedom My Novel The Golden Age Dawns. Gabriel Woods achieved a degree in psychology in University College Dublin, Ireland. He then studied a postgraduate course in UCD which focused on the management of humanitarian aid work. He learned about African culture and the issues aid workers face in Africa. Gabriel Woods has travelled around the world. He has lived in Sydney and Brisbane in Australia. He explored important religious and cultural Hindu, Buddhist and Muslim sites of India. He learned about the spiritual practices of the people that live and worship there. Gabriel Woods also spent time exploring important aboriginal sites in Australia and the lessons aboriginals have for humanity. Gabriel Woods has lived in Dublin, London and Edinburgh. He has travelled widely throughout mainland Europe including Spain, Greece, Cyprus, Netherlands and Germany with a focus on areas of cultural importance. These sites throughout the world that Gabriel has visited have had a profound effect on him which he expresses as he writes about these areas in his novel. Gabriel has returned to Ireland. He worked voluntarily for Aware helpline that supports people experiencing depression and anxiety. He is now a fully qualified life coach. He lives in a village near the banks of The Royal Canal.

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