The Need for Choice in Custody Battles

Madonna and Guy Ritchie with their son Rocco in 2000.

Knowledge is power

This is a quote by Madonna in her custody battle with Guy Ritchie to have custody of her son Rocco.  The judge has requested Madonna and Guy to settle quickly as the case is proceeding now for five days.   Rocco is said to be distressed as I have no doubt he is.

Madonna issued a picture of a man passed out while a woman sits on him with a quote “Knowledge is Power”.  She is in the middle of a world tour.  Rocco wants to stay with Guy and Madonna is insisting he lives with her.  Is there a possibility she is doing this to be in the media?

I have no doubt that Rocco is distressed.  My parents divorced at a time in Ireland that divorce was looked down on by the Catholic Church.  I spent years as a teenager before that trying to comfort my  mother and attempted to sort out family issues.  Despite my best efforts my parents separated.  I fell into a deep depression which was treated as an illness but was really a natural response that a teenager has when they can not comprehend why their parents treat each other with contempt and abuse.  To make things worse my mother left home and I was forced to live with my father.  He had a very limited emotional range so I did not get much support from him.  I did not want to live with him but I was not “fully cooked” so leaving home was not an option for me.  It was the songs of Madonna that helped me through all of this, the lyrics Madonna wrote Madonna`s songs would often cheer me up.

I still attended college and afterwards I traveled for many years.  When I went traveling it was the first time I thought about myself, not family issues, and who I really am. I discovered vital aspects of myself I did not know existed. So it was really my family situation that propelled me to travel.  My experiences in traveling have formed a large part  of what  I have written in my novel The Golden Age Dawns so I turned a bad situation into something good.  I still wrestled with why my parents divorced.

I blamed myself until just recently.  I realize now that people make their own choices, that it was not my fault.  I was too young to support my mother or sort out family problems, I did not know enough about life to do so.  I understand now that my parents are two damaged people,  trying to get through life like everybody else.  I tried my best to help. They made their choice. That applies to everybody.  We all make choices and a lot of the time it is not because of other people we do things, we do what we see as necessary to survive, or thrive.

It is possible that Madonna and Guy want to take this chance for media exposure.  I think in cases of divorce the child should be given the choice to who they want to live with.  That will affect many years of later life so if the parents care enough they will allow the child to stay where he chooses.  It is as simple as that. What are your thoughts on this?


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Gabriel Woods

I am the author of The Golden Age Dawns, a fantasy science fiction book.I have traveled to many countries around the world including India, Australia, Scotland, England, Ireland, America, Amsterdam, Germany, Greece, Cyprus, Portugal and Spain. I have worked in mental health and disability for most of my life. I have an honours Degree in Psychology, a Masters in Aid-work Management, a Certificate in Counseling Skills and I am a certified coach. I have written my first novel, The Golden Age Dawns which will be published in Amazon at the end of April. I have a Kindle book available in Amazon Easter Rising 1916 A Family Answers The Call For Ireland`s Freedom which is very popular and has achieve high ratings. I have always aimed to help and support people all my working life. Much of my learning from this is in my book, some of the ideas I share on this blogging site along with beautiful places I write about that I have traveled to. I am concerned about world politics at the moment and hope that my new book will go toward making the world a better place and helping individuals feel better about themselves. I am living in Ireland near Dublin. Apart from writing my book I have been working as a volunteer on a helpline for people with depression, bipolar and depression. What I love most is traveling and sunny countries. I love to visit important spiritual, religious, or historic places when I am in holiday but I also like holidays on the beach. I have a wide variety of music that I like from pop music to dance music and rock music. My hobbies are social commentary, politics, reading all kinds of books, the gym, gardening, D.I.Y. I love to socialize and meet new people. I like to learn new things. I am the author of: Easter Rising 1916, A Family Answers The Call For Ireland`s Freedom My Novel The Golden Age Dawns. Gabriel Woods achieved a degree in psychology in University College Dublin, Ireland. He then studied a postgraduate course in UCD which focused on the management of humanitarian aid work. He learned about African culture and the issues aid workers face in Africa. Gabriel Woods has travelled around the world. He has lived in Sydney and Brisbane in Australia. He explored important religious and cultural Hindu, Buddhist and Muslim sites of India. He learned about the spiritual practices of the people that live and worship there. Gabriel Woods also spent time exploring important aboriginal sites in Australia and the lessons aboriginals have for humanity. Gabriel Woods has lived in Dublin, London and Edinburgh. He has travelled widely throughout mainland Europe including Spain, Greece, Cyprus, Netherlands and Germany with a focus on areas of cultural importance. These sites throughout the world that Gabriel has visited have had a profound effect on him which he expresses as he writes about these areas in his novel. Gabriel has returned to Ireland. He worked voluntarily for Aware helpline that supports people experiencing depression and anxiety. He is now a fully qualified life coach. He lives in a village near the banks of The Royal Canal.

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