Knowledge is power
This is a quote by Madonna in her custody battle with Guy Ritchie to have custody of her son Rocco. The judge has requested Madonna and Guy to settle quickly as the case is proceeding now for five days. Rocco is said to be distressed as I have no doubt he is.
Madonna issued a picture of a man passed out while a woman sits on him with a quote “Knowledge is Power”. She is in the middle of a world tour. Rocco wants to stay with Guy and Madonna is insisting he lives with her. Is there a possibility she is doing this to be in the media?
I have no doubt that Rocco is distressed. My parents divorced at a time in Ireland that divorce was looked down on by the Catholic Church. I spent years as a teenager before that trying to comfort my mother and attempted to sort out family issues. Despite my best efforts my parents separated. I fell into a deep depression which was treated as an illness but was really a natural response that a teenager has when they can not comprehend why their parents treat each other with contempt and abuse. To make things worse my mother left home and I was forced to live with my father. He had a very limited emotional range so I did not get much support from him. I did not want to live with him but I was not “fully cooked” so leaving home was not an option for me. It was the songs of Madonna that helped me through all of this, the lyrics Madonna wrote Madonna`s songs would often cheer me up.
I still attended college and afterwards I traveled for many years. When I went traveling it was the first time I thought about myself, not family issues, and who I really am. I discovered vital aspects of myself I did not know existed. So it was really my family situation that propelled me to travel. My experiences in traveling have formed a large part of what I have written in my novel The Golden Age Dawns so I turned a bad situation into something good. I still wrestled with why my parents divorced.
I blamed myself until just recently. I realize now that people make their own choices, that it was not my fault. I was too young to support my mother or sort out family problems, I did not know enough about life to do so. I understand now that my parents are two damaged people, trying to get through life like everybody else. I tried my best to help. They made their choice. That applies to everybody. We all make choices and a lot of the time it is not because of other people we do things, we do what we see as necessary to survive, or thrive.
It is possible that Madonna and Guy want to take this chance for media exposure. I think in cases of divorce the child should be given the choice to who they want to live with. That will affect many years of later life so if the parents care enough they will allow the child to stay where he chooses. It is as simple as that. What are your thoughts on this?