What is the single greatest power in the world? I think it is love. It is said love heals and I think it does. Love forgives, no matter what harm was done. Love of yourself and others takes away bitterness and hate.
The most difficult thing for many of us to do is to love ourselves. Yes we can love the positives within us, that`s easy. What about what we see as undesirable? Those parts of us that seem to create difficulties for us, our weaknesses, our disabilities, whatever we see as faults. We may beat ourselves up especially if others attack us because of our ‘imperfections’. We might attack and blame others because we can`t accept the issues we have to work on. In time we must accept everything about us because that`s the only way we can change, if that`s what we want to do. We need to be honest with ourselves first. We might just decide that we are a certain way and, provided you not hurting someone, and just accept that. Make friends with that part of you that you don`t like and then love yourself more. It is only by loving yourself that you can unconditionally love others.
What helps us in this process? I think it is the love of another be it friend, partner, girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, wife, a family member any trusted person that doesn`t judge you. In clinical psychology research has proven (not many psychological studies have actually proven a theory) that teenagers are less at risk from poor mental health issues when they have a mature, well balanced person to talk to about their difficulties that doesn`t judge them. A loving person can tell us what we need to know about ourselves and support us if we decide to change.
I`m not a religious person but I love Saint Paul`s quote about love. He sums it all up:
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
Wonderfully put isn`t it?!!!
Ask yourself “Who will I show love to today? What do I need to love about myself today?”